I was talking with a couple of my girlies the other day about the trap our mind often gets us into of imagining happiness at some future point in time when we’ve accomplished x, y, and z.
That thinking goes something this…
“I’ll be happy when I get into the school I’ve worked so hard for. I’ll be happy as soon as finals are over. I’ll be happy when I can finally graduate. I’ll be happy when I get hired for this job. I’ll be happy when I’m promoted. I’ll be happy when I buy the house of my dreams. I’ll be happy when I’m done with all of these renovations! I’ll be happy when I get married. I’ll be happy when I have children. I’ll be happy when the kids are out of the house. I’ll be happy as soon as I’m divorced!” ;)
This form of thinking is a mental trap and I know I fall into quite a bit myself!
The truth is, happiness is available to us when we come back to THIS PRESENT MOMENT where we can open to love and joy and the dynamism of life! Right?!
Sounds so easy and spiritual and lovely. If only life wasn’t constantly throwing so many obstacles at us!
“OK, I’ll be happy in the present moment as soon as life stops throwing all these fucking obstacles at me.”
LOL there’s that mental trap again!
MEDITATION TO THE RESCUE!
The practice of Equanimity shows us a different way. It’s a mental training that isn’t based on the outer circumstances of our lives being perfect, but on the mind being able to be flexible and open.
It’s about finding presence, steadiness and emotional balance through the inevitable ups and downs, highs and lows of our lives. We practice to become completely open to life and anything that might come along: both the happy and hard moments.
I’m not gonna lie, this practice isn’t easy. But it’s powerful for bringing more peace, clarity and evenness to your life.